Have you ever known that if you say you're sorry (even when you may not need to be) that a relationship can begin to heal....and you don't do it?
Why not?
Because you're scared, intimidated, worried, shy, upset, prideful.
You have no courage. You have no juevos.
That's why.
I will always remember the quote from Dr. Jason Carroll of my marriage prep class. We were talking about communicating with others and he said, "It's not 'if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all,' instead it should be if you have nothing nice to say, figure out a nice way to say it."
But doing that takes courage. It takes change.
I find it interesting that people expect people to understand people. But people need training. I'm sorry to have to tell you this, but you needed to learn how to go to the bathroom in a bathroom, just as much as my good dog friend Bella needed to learn that same concept- only outside.
We all need training, to become the kind of people we should become.
How do you do that?
I believe that it starts by being perceptive. Putting yourself in others shoes. If you don't like something, chances are someone else doesn't either. If you like something, chances are someone else does too. I don't mean your favorite color, or sports team, but a behavior.
If you like when you're house is clean, chances are someone else in your house does too. If you don't like the look of dirty dishes in the sink, or the feeling of being stood up for something, chances are someone else thinks the same. Have the courage to be perceptive and clean up. Don't focus solely on your wants and needs. Sometimes your needs are coinciding with those around you. But if you put the blinders of busy-ness, and 'I want things my way'.... you'll have no time to see how you can serve others (including your family).
Have the courage to notice those around you. Have the humility to admit that you can be trained, and when you mess up - go back and seek feedback to be better trained the next time.
Get some juevos, be perceptive, accept that you need training.
Now- if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go walk to my next class...
Oh yeah - I had to be trained to walk too, hmmm.
