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Sunday, August 29, 2010

Life is too short for nothing

A former stake president, Guy B. Beacom once said, “ If you have something to make someone's day, say it.”

Why are we so caught up in our own lives, our own hustle and bustle, that we don't stop to say hello?

Why do we love to feel the kindness directed toward us, and we can't direct it toward another? I'm guilty, and so are you. We've all known someone that needed help, or maybe they do right now. Yet, we can't seem to find the time, the means, or the way to do anything about it. There must be a conscience effort to change, and then willingness to actually follow up on your own commitment.

A couple years ago I was driving home from work. My uniform at work was a suit, and so with that I am about as cautious with my suit jackets as a girl may be with her shoes. I was coming up to the next stop light when I noticed an unreasonable amount of traffic for 10:00 at night. As I got closer I saw that a man's car had broken down and every car was merging to the next lane to go around him. I was about to join this band wagon when I conscientiously told myself to stop and do something. I stopped in the middle of the road, and helped to push the man's car out the road and down a few blocks.

Why am I telling you this story? Because people need you. They need me. Sometimes it takes 2 minutes, other times it will take 2 days. The point is, if you have something to make someone's day, say it. Trust me, you'll bring a change to yourself that you never thought you wanted.

Monday, August 23, 2010

Wear T-shirts

I listened recently to Baz Luhrmann's "Everybody's free (To wear sunscreen)". As I listened to it and reminisced my fast fading youth- I've thought of my own advice - with a thankful wave to Baz and Mary-to our older friends. I call it, "Wear T-Shirts".

Ladies and gentlemen, to the class of the older generation,

Wear T-Shirts.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, T-shirts would be it. A long term benefit has been proved by us, the young people--where as the rest of my advice, has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience; I will deal my advice to you, now.

Enjoy the opportunities of the learning you could have. Don't be afraid of a computer-embrace it. Oh never mind, you won't know the power and beauty of the youth's around you until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at the good times that you had, and recall in a way you can't understand now--how much your young adult son or daughter really changed you. You are not so old that you can't still learn a thing or two from a young buck.

Don't worry about our future. We will come to you when we need you. Don't just give us a freebie, let us hurt a little. The smoothest rock wasn't made by years of sitting on the sidelines. Let us mess up, but not too much. Let us share what we've learned about the importance of learning, maybe you'll learn something from us.

Do one thing everyday that changes you for tomorrow. I don't mean get a tattoo, or take that trip to the North Pole, but do something. Don't say "I'm content to stay where I am."


Don't let someone's negativity or sad look on life bring you down, and don't let yourself be that way to someone else.


Don't waste your time on comparing yourself to others, the only one to compare to is you.

Give more compliments to those younger than you. Forget the insults and sarcasm.

Remember to love, even if they don't love back.


Don't feel frustrated if you don't know how to use your new cell phone, I know people half your age that don't remember how to remember because that "new gadget" does it for them.

Get plenty of fun in your life.

Be kind to your closest friends. You'll miss them when they're gone.

Maybe you'll run a marathon, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll learn to play the Wii, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll live longer than your children. Maybe you'll jump out of an airplane when you're 95 just to say that you did...the adrenaline may kill you, but your choices have consequences; just like everybody else.

Smile. Even if you have nowhere to do it but in front of your loved ones and the mirror, laugh at yourself-even if you think you're an idiot...BE SURE you read your scriptures everyday the example to us will last a lifetime.

Get to know your children since they've moved away. Don't believe for a second that they're going to stay the same punk high school-er that grew their hair out and didn't listen to you. They're different.

Go on vacation to some exotic getaway. St. George doesn't count.

Go visit church history sites. St. George again, doesn't count.

Realize no one is perfect. Especially the members of your congregation.

Don't find so much fault in those around you. When you start to focus on the dirt, that's all you see. Love the one's your children choose to marry and treat them as one of your own. They're adding to your family, not taking away from it.

Be careful with how much advice you shell out, sometimes the best advice you can give us is a listening ear.

But trust me about the T-shirt.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

The best is left in front of you

We bought pizza for an entire student section at a visiting football game . We painted our faces and were at times the only 2 people to show up to our high school girls volleyball student section.

My stake president made him my first companion when I was a missionary.

We went to Connecticut on a weekend trip to watch football with ESPN analysts.

Late night game playing, girl talking, you've got my back I've got yours, frosty eating, understanding, best friend and...

It has hit me recently that my best friend since high school is married. It happened back in May, but it just hit me.

He's gone.

But it's okay, the change is good...right?

I think at times we don't see the difference, change in routine, throwing off of a good. All we think about is the hard part,

"I lost my job so I don't have money."
"I have to change location so I have no friends."
"My best friend is moving on so I'm left behind."

But the best is left in front of you. Not behind you.

Now you have an opportunity to find a better job, a good job, a job you love.
Now you can make more friends, grow relationships, increase your facebook friend count.
Now you can appreciate what they taught you, do your best to keep them near you, and love others the way they loved you.

Because best friends never leave you behind, they help you see the best left in front of you.

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Hey Dad,

"Dad! I want to make a robot for the 4th grade science fair."

"Okay, Ryan-you'll need to find a lot of parts to make something like that."

"Dad! I read all 30 chapter books this weekend for the read-a-thon in Mr. Jackson's class, can you sign off for me?"

"Ryan, did you really read that many books? I saw you playing video games a lot."

"Dad! Can I borrow the car? Dad! Can I borrow some money? Dad! Can you help me with my math homework? Dad! Can I please not mow the lawn today? Dad! Dad! Dad!"

I think I annoyed my dad. A lot. Always asking for things, always trying to one up him, always trying to live up to who I knew he knew I could be...

But I fell down. Sometimes too much, but he was always willing to be there and pick me up.

Why? Because he chose to.

"Hey Dad, I totaled Mom's car on the freeway, can you come pick me up?"
"Sure Ry, I'll be there soon."

"Hey Dad, I'm having a really hard time handling what's going on right now, can I have a blessing?"
"No problem Ryan, come over when you can."

"Hey Dad, I'm sorry I was so mean to you today; I'll be better tomorrow."
"I know Ry. I know."

"Hey Dad, thank you for teaching me the importance of being humble. I hope I can one day say as the people said to King Benjamin, 'because of the Spirit...which has wrought a mighty change in us, or in our hearts, that we have no more disposition to do evil, but to do good continually.' I'll be better today, than I was yesterday."

Why? Because I choose to.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Thunderstorms with roller coasters

It's raining, it's pouring, the little boy is crying?

Last weekend I went to Lagoon. It was fun to spend the day with friends and go on roller coasters.

Except the white one.

If you haven't been to Lagoon, the white roller coaster is old, and while you're riding it you feel like you're going to fall off to the parking lot below... Not fun.


We were at the gate ready to board the cart of doom and as the last group came creaking inward, I noticed this boy, had to be about 6--scared.

Not boogie monster scared, he was boogie monster ate my teddy bear scared.

As he got out of the car, his father came up from behind him and put his arm around him. The boy immediately embraced his father, and would not let go.

I bet earlier that day, the boy was running around, happy as can be, and if the father tried to love and hug his son, the son probably would've shoved him away or not really notice.

I wonder how many times our Father has wanted to reach out to us, but because we're having so much fun...we don't notice.

I'm not saying we shouldn't have fun. I think the hard thing to learn for most of us is to continuously hug the Father even when life is good, even when life is fun.

Not only when we get on the white roller coaster.